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Saturday, October 22, 2011

Why I Blog


It’s high time I explained myself. Here’s why I do it.

To Keep Family in the Know
I initially started the blog in order to keep our family informed while we were away. That’s a big reason why I don’t feel the need to make each and every post riveting. I can feel at ease about posting the latest on the kid’s loose tooth or skint knee, knowing that you, my dear readers, can tune out at anytime. And no offense is taken!  Maybe my sister will laugh at something funny Charley said and feel a tighter connection because of it. Maybe while we were in Alaska, my brother-in-law got a glimpse into his brother’s life whom he hadn’t seen in over a year. Those things alone make writing worthwhile.


For the Record
The blog quickly evolved into a way of keeping up with our family history. I hope that one day I can get it all printed out and bound. I want Charley to remember our time together during these years. I only wish I had been keeping up all along. I love going back and looking through our family history. I especially love looking back when I am feeling a little bit down. On the days when I feel like I’ve done everything wrong and I’ve been a terrible mother, I can look back and remember that I’m not so bad after all.


To Inform
I started reading blogs when I was planning our move to Delta Junction, Alaska. I was hungry for information that would help me have a better understanding of the foreign land I was going to be living in. I loved getting a glimpse of life in Alaska through the blogs of people who lived there. I hope that anyone that stumbles on my blog in their search for details about a particular place, can find real information and photographs about what to expect when they get there.

To Be Heard
As a southerner, I was brought up to be a lady. Part of being a lady, is not drawing unnecessary attention to yourself. Recently, I've been questioning that way of thinking. Why shouldn't I want attention? Not to say I want to I am going to be dancing on any tabletops anytime soon or speaking in any public forums, but hey if you want to know what I am doing, you want to look my way? Go ahead. 

I am the baby in the family. The baby’s opinions aren’t often respected until the baby turns 52, or 53, or something. Somebody always knows more, somebody has always already done it. On my blog, I don’t have to compete to get a word in. I want to talk about me, me, me, talk about I, talk about number 1, oh my, me my. (It's a country song.) Selfish, I know.  But I’ve gained confidence by airing my ideas and beliefs. Just to be able to get things out in the open, even if not a soul on earth agrees, is liberating! And here’s the thing. I’m not actually selfish. I want to hear from you too! That’s why I read your blogs. That’s why in real life, I try to keep up when you tell me what your plans are.

As an Excuse to Shoot Hundreds and Thousands of Photographs
I was going to do it anyway. At least now I have a place to put some of them.


For Brain Exercise
I realize I don’t always use proper English or use correct punctuation, but the act of putting my thoughts together takes a lot of time and consideration. I tend to read through a post a bazillion times, editing, RE-editing. Analyzing. It is good for the mind. 

For Affirmation and Encouragement
Everybody needs affirmation and encouragement. If you aren’t getting it in some form, you. will. not. flourish. You see, I am a stay at home mom. I don’t hang out at the water cooler during break time with co-workers (who does that anyway?) . My adult social interaction comes in the form of a man named Chuck. I talk to Mom and Sunny on a regular basis on the phone and that's about as deep as I get lately. I said all that to say, I LOVE YOUR COMMENTS! There is no shame in it. I used to wonder why I clung to them so. I used to wonder why I cared and what might be wrong with me because I did. But now I know. Your comments, your compliments, feed my creative spirit. Your comments feed the nurturer in me. If you think I am spending good quality time with my daughter, it makes me want to do it more often! If you think I made something pretty, then it makes me want to do it again! And when I do it again, I feel good about myself! It is natural to want feedback from others. Why be ashamed to say it aloud? Now, having said that, please DO NOT feel the need to leave me more comments. I want readers to do what they feel comfortable doing. I LOVE THE FACT THAT YOU ARE TUNING AT ALL! A very wise man (it was Chuck) recently reminded me that readership is something to be proud of. Just to have people reading your stuff…..well, to a writer, that’s huge!

So, thanks for reading. Thanks for following! Thanks for commenting! You are MUCH appreciated. 




8 comments:

  1. Haley, You are a wonderful mother! Don't ever doubt that. Charly will have wonderful memories because your adventures with her! love reading your blog.

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  2. You just don't have any idea how much I seriously regret that we didn't get to meet up both before we both moved to AK and again when we both moved back the same day (still funny as all get out running into you in a busy airport!)....This,too, is a post that comes close to what I would have written....just like our "ending the AK adventure" posts...I think we would have hit it off really well! Let me know when you get back down for visits!

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  3. Well as I sit in a hotel in the Smokey Mountains with tears flowing after reading this I am so thankful and proud of my baby girl......that's you Hayley. You AND Chuck have totally sacrificed much in order for you to be a great mom and that you are my dear. I love you so much. Charley will benefit for the rest of her life for these first 6 years of having you home. I am also thankful for technology and your photos and last but not least your blog. I know I've been known to question why you are totally so forthcoming with everything on the dadgum internet, more specifically like you "garbage"..LOL, but I have to remember that I'm one of the main reasons you started it. Not getting to see three of my favorite people in the world I get very excited at each and every post......and you know it. You are a thoughtful and very lovely mother, wife AND daughter and I love you more than you'll ever know.

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  4. I love your blog: the long ones, short ones or just the one that only has a picture or two. I have found myself laugh, tear up, be encouraged as a mom or wife and miss the girl next door. While you began yours to shorten the distance between you and the family and friends that are so dispersed, it can be a very theraputic purge of emotions and thoughts...and it is kinda nice to not be interrupted! Keep up the great work because there are a few of us that like reading about YOU, YOU, You! lol
    ~the yankee nerd

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  5. I'm very, VERY appreciative of your blog, sister. I love keeping up with y'all this way. Thank you. I've thought about starting one so y'all can keep up with me, too, but have decided blogging/photography is your thing. Not my thing. I like it that way. Love you.

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  6. This is great Hayley! And as a blogger too, I agree with you about all of it. It is so helful to have an outlet, a way to organize everything in your head, a way to communicate with the world. And hopefully needing the affirmation is totally normal...otherwise, I am a crazy psycho! Because I obsess over how many hits and comments my posts get too. You are such an awesome mom and woman. Charley and Chuck are blessed to have you around. Love you!

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  7. Hey - reading you is one of my favorite past times! And... if one day I show up at your family reunion thinking I'm your sister it's just 'cause you kept me apprised of all things FAMILY!

    I love it! And that last photo? Good grief... she is one gorgeous baby - like her Mama!

    ;-D robelyn

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  8. I am also the baby, but I hate to tell you this. I am 52, and NOBODY listens to me either. That is why we write! Keep writing....you are awesome! (and I understand about comments, I cherish mine!)

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